The Journey From Grievance To Gratitude
How to Navigate the challenges and obstacles to your relationship or divorce
Relationship (and/or divorce) is a spiritual practice and a sacred journey inward. Neither relationship nor divorce can be fixed on the outside. They can only be transformed from the inside and that, in and of itself, is quite a journey. Like any great adventure, the rewards are unexpected and surprising.
If you can imagine that you are on a sacred journey to Mecca or Machu Pichu, rather than enduring the biggest heartbreak or difficulty of your life then your experiences begin to take on entirely new meanings. When you are on a sacred journey, every moment is rich with images, symbols, and messages that reveal your intimacy with the world. This is also true with every aspect, every moment of life whether you are aware of it or not. On a sacred journey you tend to meet each moment with a profound sense of wonder and awe because you are in a state of not knowing. You don’t know the landscape. You don’t know how the weather will be. Sometimes you don’t know the language spoken and you don’t know who or what you will meet on your path.
If you believe that you know all you need to ever know about yourself and your journey with your partner or spouse, then life can become stagnant, even stale. However, with this new point of view, your partnership or even your divorce can become a gateway to discovering the beauty and mystery in the life you have right now.This course is organized around seven spiritual principles that I offer as a kind of road map on your personal journey to Mecca or to the center of your life. As you travel you might discover that your relationship opens up in unexpected ways. You begin with a Zen Koan Meditation Practice to have as the container for this course and will have the opportunity to learn 7 spiritual principles, meditation practices, rituals, exercises or writing assignments along with some inspirational readings to guide you from grievance to gratitude.
A Spiritual Journey
And the world cannot be discovered by a journey of miles,
no matter how long,
but only by a spiritual journey,
a journey of one inch,
very arduous and humbling and joyful,
by which we arrive at the ground at our feet,
and learn to be at home.
~ Wendell Berry ~
I am a spiritual counselor and coach specializing in relationships. I have been in private practice for 15 years in Oakland & Aptos, CA. I have had the great privilege to work with elders, healers and wisdom keepers from all over the world. These wonderful teachers and their teachings have deeply informed me and the work I offer to you.
My core philosophy is that healing and wholeness begins first with yourself, then extends to your family and finally to the larger communities that surround you.